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New! The counseling center has put some self-help resources on reserve at Milne Library. Books that are on reserve at the library are indicated with a *. To see a list of self-help resources on reserve go to Milne Library Catalogue and search for "self-help."

There are some really great books out there about mental health issues and personal growth. Reading about a mental health issue can be very helpful but does not  take the place of talking to an informed and supportive person who cares. We believe it is important for every individual to make informed choices about what they read and how they use that information. Our favorite reads are listed by topic:

Adult Children of Alcoholics
Anger Management
Anxiety
Body Image and Eating Issues
Depression
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Issues
Grief
Men's Issues
Personality
Relationships & Break-ups
Self-esteem
Self-Injury
Sexual and Physical Violence
Women's Self-care

Adult Children of Alcoholics

*Black, C. (1982). It will never happen to me. Denver, CO: MAC Publishing.

Black, C. (1990) Double Duty. New York, NY: Ballantine Books.

Brown, S. (1992) Safe Passage: Recovery for Adult Children of Alcoholics. New York, NY: John Wiley and Sons, Inc.

David, J. (1994). The family secret: ACOAs tell their story. New York, NY: William Morrow and Company.

McConnell, P. (1986). A workbook for healing adult children of alcoholics. San Francisco, CA: Harper & Row.

Woititz, J. (1990). Adult children of Alcoholics, revised ed. Deerfield Beach, FL: Communications, Inc.

Anger Management

Lerner, H. (1985). The dance of anger: A woman’s guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships. New York: Harper Perennial.

Potter-Effron, R. & Potter-Effron, R.T. (1994). Angry all the time: An emergency guide to anger control. New Harbinger Publications.

Anxiety

*Antony, M. & Swinson R. (2000). The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven techniques for overcoming your fears. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

*Bourne, E.J. (1995). The anxiety & phobia workbook. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Communications.

Davis, M., Eshelman, E.R. & McKay, M. (1995). The relaxation and stress reduction workbook 4th edition. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

*Hyman, B. & Pedrick C. (2005). The OCD Workbook: Breaking free from obsessive-compulsive disorder. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Jeffers, S. (1988). Feel the fear and do it anyway reissue edition. Fawcett Books.

Leshan L. (1999). How to meditate: A guide to self-discovery. Little Brown & Co.

Nhat Hahn, T. (1992). Peace is every step: The path of mindfulness in everyday life. Bantam Books.

Steketee, G. & White K. (1990). When Once Is Not Enough: Help for obsessive compulsives. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Wilson, R.R. (1986). Don’t panic: Taking control of anxiety attacks. New York: Harper & Row.

Body Image and Eating issues

Kano, S. (1989). Making peace with food: Freeing yourself from the diet/weight obsession Revised ed. HarperCollins.

Chernin, K. (1994). The obsession: Reflections on the tyranny of slenderness. Perennial.

Chernin, K. (1994). The hungry self: Women, eating and identity. Perennial.

Freedman, R. (1990). Body love. HarperCollins Publishers.

Johnston, A.A. (2000). Eating in the light of the moon: How women can transform their relationship with food through myths, metaphors & storytelling. Gurze Designs & Books.

Roth, G. (1993). Breaking free from compulsive eating. Plume.

Roth, G. (1993). Feeding the hungry heart: Breaking free from compulsive eating. Plume.

Roth, G. (1993). When food is love: Exploring the relationship between eating and intimacy. Plume.

Tribble, E. & Resch, E. (1996). Intuitive eating: A recovery book for the chronic dieter: Rediscover the pleasures of eating and rebuild your body image. St Martins Mass Market Paper.

Depression

Burns, D.D. (1999). Feeling good: The new mood therapy 2nd edition. Avon.

Burns, D.D. (1999). The Feeling Good Handbook. Plume.

Greenburger, D. & Padesky, C.A. (1995). Mind over mood: Change how you feel by changing the way you think. New York: Guilford.

Lewinsohn, P.M., Munoz, R.F., Youngren, M.A., & Zeiss, A.M. (1986). Control your depression 2nd edition. Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall.

Seligman, M.E.P. (1991). Learned Optimism. New York: A.A. Knopf.

Styron, W. (1992). Darkness visible: A memoir of madness. Vintage books.

Tanner, S. & Ball, S. (1989). Beating the Blues. Sydney, Australia: Doubleday.

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Issues

*Howard, K. & Stevens, A. (Eds.) (2000). Out and about Campus: Personal accounts by lesbian, gay, bisexual & transgendered college students. New York: Alyson Books

Bass, E. & Kaufman, K. (1996). Free your mind: The book for gay, lesbian and bisexual youth – and their allies. HarperCollins.

Bernstein, R. A. (2003) Straight parents, gay children: Keeping families together. Thunder’s Mouth Press.

Gilespie, P. Editor. (1999) Love makes a family: Portraits of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents and their families. University of Massachusetts Press.

Rasi, R.A. & Rodriguez-Nogues L. (Eds.) (1995). Out in the workplace: The pleasures and perils of coming out on the job. Alyson publications.

Rhoads, R.A. (1994). Coming out in college: The struggle for a queer identity. Bergin & Garvey.

Savin-Williams, R.C. (2001). Mom, Dad, I'm Gay: How Families Negotiate Coming Out.American Psychological Association.

Grief

Colgrove, M., Bloomfied, H.H. & McWilliams, P. (1991). How to survive the loss of a love. Los Angeles, CA.: Prelude Press

Davis Prend, A. (1997) Transcending Loss: Understanding the lifelong impact of grief and how to make it meaningful. Berkley Publishing Group.

*Kushner, H.S. (1997). When Bad Things Happen to Good People reissue edition. Avon.

Edelman, H. (1995). Motherless daughters: The legacy of loss. Delta.

Grollman, E. & Malikow, M. (1999). Living when a young friend commits suicide. Beacon Press.

LeShan, E.J. (1976). Learning to say good-bye: When a parent dies. New York: Macmillan.

Men's Issues

Keen, S. (1992). Fire in the belly: On being a man. Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing.

Bly, R. (1992). Iron John: A book about men. Vintage Books

Goldberg, H. (2000). The hazards of being male: Surviving the myth of masculine privilege. Wellness Institute.

Grubman-Black, S. (1990). Broken boys/mending men: Recovery from childhood sexual abuse. Blue Ridge Summit, PA: TAB Books.

King, N. (1995). Speaking Our Truth : Voices of Courage and Healing for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Harperperennial Library.

Levinson, D.J. (1986). Season of a man’s life reissue edition. Ballantine Books.

Lew, Mike (2000) Leaping upon the Mountains : Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child Abuse. North Atlantic Books.

Lew, M. (2004). Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Child Abuse 2nd edition. Perennial Currents.

McMullen, Richie. (1990). Male Rape: Breaking The Silence On The Last Taboo. London: The Gay Men's Press.

Real, T. (1998). I don’t want to talk about it: Overcoming the secret legacy of male depression. Fireside.

Zilbergeld, B. (1999). The new male sexuality, revised edition. Bantam Doubleday Dell Pub.

Personality

Aron, E.N. (1997). The highly sensitive person: How to thrive when the world overwhelms you. Broadway Books.

Laney, M.O. (2002). The introvert advantage: How to thrive in an extrovert world. Workman Publishing.

Zimbardo, P.G. (1990). Shyness: What it is, what to do about it. Perseus Publishing.

Relationships & Break-ups

*Findling, R. (1999). Don't call that Man! A survival guide to letting go. NY: Hyperion.

Fischer, B. (1999). Rebuilding: When your relationship ends (3rd edition). Impact Publishers, Inc.

Fromm, E. (2000). The art of loving. HarperCollins.

Hendrix, H. (1988). Getting the love you want: A guide for couples. New York: Harper & Row.

*Katherine, A. (2000). Boundaries: Where you end and I begin. NY: Simon & Schuster.

*Lerner, H. (1997). The dance of anger: A woman’s guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships reissue edition. HarperCollins.

Lerner, H. (1997). The dance of deception: A guide to authenticity and truth-telling in women’s relationships. HarperCollins.

Lerner, H. (1997). The dance of intimacy: A women’s guide to courageous acts of change in key relationships. HarperCollins.

Scarf, M. (1996). Intimate partners: Patterns in love and marriage. Ballantine Books.

Vaughan, D. (1990). Uncoupling: Turning points in intimate relationships. Vintage Books.

Self Esteem

*Brandon, N. (1995). The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. NY, NY: Bantam.

McKay, M. & Fanning, P. (2000). Self Esteem: A proven program of cognitive techniques for assessing, improving and maintaining your self-esteem 3rd edition. New Harbinger Publications.

Helmstetter, S. (1990). What to say when you talk to yourself. Pocket books.

Seligman, M.P. (1995). What you can change… and what you can’t: The complete guide to successful self-improvement: Learning to accept who you are. Fawcett Books.

Self- Injury

Alderman, T. (1997). The scarred soul: Understanding & ending self-inflicted violence. New Harbinger Publications.
*Levenkron, S. (1998). Cutting: Overcoming and understanding self-mutilation. W.W. Norton & Co.

Sexual and Physical Violence

*Adams, C. (1989). Free of the Shadows: Recovering from Sexual Violence. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.

Bass, E. & Davis, L. (1992). The courage to heal: A guide for women survivors of child sexual abuse 2nd Edition. New York: Harper & Row.

Benedict, Helen (1994). Recovery: How to survive sexual assault for women, men, teenagers, and their families. Columbia University Press, New York.

Davis, L. (1990). The courage to heal workbook: A guide for women and men survivors of child sexual abuse. New York: Harper & Row.

Davis, Laura. (1991). Allies In Healing: When The Person You Love Was Sexually Abused As A Child. New York: Harper Perennial.

Grubman-Black, S. (1990). Broken boys/mending men: Recovery from childhood sexual abuse. Blue Ridge Summit, PA: TAB Books.

King, N. (1995). Speaking Our Truth : Voices of Courage and Healing for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Harperperennial Library.

Lew, Mike (2000) Leaping upon the Mountains : Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child Abuse. North Atlantic Books.

Lew, M. (2004). Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Child Abuse 2nd edition. Perennial Currents.

Maltz, W. (1991). The sexual healing journey: A guide for survivors of sexual abuse. New York: Harper Perennial.

McMullen, Richie. (1990). Male Rape: Breaking The Silence On The Last Taboo. London: The Gay Men's Press.

Rather, E. (1990). The other side of the family: A book for recovery from abuse, incest and neglect. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.

Scarce, Michael & Rubenstein, William B. (2002). Male on male rape: The hidden toll of stigma and shame. Perseus Book Group.

Walker, L.E. (1979). The Battered Woman. New York: Harper & Row.

Warshaw, R. (1988). I never called it rape: The Ms. report on recognizing, fighting and surviving date and acquaintance rape. New York: Harper & Row.

Women's Self-Care

Sark. (1997). Succulent Wild Woman. Fireside.

Louden, J. (1992). The woman’s comfort book: A self-nurturing guide for restoring balance in your life. New York, NY: HarperCollins.

*Torre-Bueno, A. (1997). Peace after Abortion. San Diego, CA: Pimpernel Press.